The possibility of adopting children by same-sex couples still generates a massive number of contradictions in society. It can be considered a social problem of an exceptional nature related to sexuality. After years of research, homosexuality and bisexuality were excluded from the list of mental illnesses. The main result was the understanding that homosexuality or bisexuality does not become a barrier to successful social adaptation.
The social problem associated with anti-gay adoption may be related to queer/feminist theory, which opposes the established classification of sex and sexuality as constraints, and instead views these structures as fluid. The presence of any sexual attraction does not characterize a person from the point of view of raising children; therefore, the nature of this problem is subjective.
Some people still do not accept those gender roles are changeable, and a person’s abilities in any area are determined not by their gender but by personal qualities. “Prejudices formed by centuries of experience” have a significant impact on developing a certain attitude towards the situation. (Farr 379) Lack of awareness breeds fears and makes people think that the same-sex family model will affect the child’s orientation in the future, subsequently, and inheritance.
According to the people’s prejudices, ultimately, this can stop “the demographic process” in the usual sense. (Messina 72) Fear for the child’s psyche, who grew up in these families that will be formed incorrectly, is also present in the prejudices associated with anti-gay adoption. The discrimination born of ignorance and lack of awareness faced by same-sex parents can also affect the child and lead to problems for families of this kind.
Queer theory presupposes a departure from frames and labels, and freedom in choosing one’s identity, regardless of biological sex. This also applies to minority LGBTQIA, these theories are seen as broader and more flexible concepts that provide a framework for exploring “different attitudes, behaviors or conditions of individual experience.” (Evans 23) Therefore, this does not limit people’s freedom to choose their lives and adopt children; moreover, gender roles lose their meaning because identities consist of many different components. The problem in society can be solved by global awareness and, as a result, the emergence and manifestation of a more tolerant attitude towards all people without exception. Categories of race, gender, sexual orientation, and many others cannot be oppressed and should be accepted as the norm.
Equally, safety issues and the number of problems faced by homosexual and bisexual parents and their children directly depend on the state’s position and society’s attitude. “Raising children by same-sex couples” is allowed in many countries, which is a movement towards the correct, most tolerant life. (Wood 159) This is the only way to make adoption and raising children by same-sex families familiar to society.
Assessing certain consequences for society in the situation with anti-gay adoption, one can note inevitable unrest, and discomfort from being in an environment where an utterly normal phenomenon is condemned. If intolerance is felt at the state level and in society, people will have to change their residence due to the impossibility of existence. The anti-gay adoption policy moves society back while the whole world strives for freedom and the opportunity to live comfortably.
To conclude, considering queer/feminist theory, the departure from the categories and frameworks associated with biological sex is noted; as a result of this, gender roles are erased, and certain freedom is possible. For society to become more loyal, several more decades are needed; this will contribute to the elimination of oppression and discrimination. As long as intolerance exists in society, there is also a policy that implies same-sex couples’ impossibility of adopting children. The main thing in upbringing is the quality of relationships, not the family’s composition; heterosexuality is not a guarantee of raising a happy child. Everyone needs to learn to be parents, and acquire new skills and abilities – regardless of sexual orientation.
Evans, E. and Lépinard, É. Intersectionality in feminist and queer movements: Confronting privileges. Routledge, 2019.
Farr, Rachel H., and Abbie E. Goldberg. “Sexual orientation, gender identity, and adoption law.” Family Court Review, vol.56, no. 3, 2018, pp. 374-383. Web.
Messina, Roberta, and Salvatore D’Amore. “Adoption by lesbians and gay men in Europe: Challenges and barriers on the journey to adoption.” Adoption Quarterly, vol. 21, no. 2, 2018, pp. 59-81. Web.
Wood, Kate. “Families beyond boundaries: Conceptualising kinship in gay and lesbian adoption and fostering.” Child & Family Social Work, vol. 23, no. 2, 2018, pp. 155-162. Web.